Exercising the Law of Love

Start a new fashion wear your heart on your sleeve.” Carrie Underwood may have been singing about love and it may have been for the movie Enchanted but for the homework assignment this week in class we had to take it a little more seriously. This week we had to exercise the Law of Love by telling someone how much we appreciate them and value their presence in our lives. It could not be a parent, significant other, or sibling. A friend, mentor, or someone within that category had to be chosen. This assignment proved to be difficult for me.

I do not express my emotions very well. Even if I am writing it down I have a hard time with the words. When I do express myself it makes me emotionally vulnerable. I get this overwhelming feeling and I want to stop what I am doing because it doesn’t feel right. However, if it is for someone I deeply care about I can get past the feeling and continue on. In some cases it is easy to tell my feelings when the time is appropriate.

Recently, my friend started another relationship with her ex-boyfriend. I never knew what cause them to break up in the first place but from what I could gather he was not always honest with her. Though they broke up they still kept a close relationship as friends and he was constantly telling her how much she meant to him as more than just a friend. Not how I would go about a break-up but it is how it worked for them. So much that they decided to give themselves another try.

I do not know if their relationship would work the second time around. All I know is that as my friend I care about her. I do not like to see her upset, I want what is best for her, and if for any reason he makes the same mistake twice he will regret it. This is what I told her. She was so shocked by my confession that she did not know what to say. That was fine by me. As long as she knows I am genuinely concerned about her well-being I do not need a thank you or recognition. I just want her to come to me when she needs me. It is nice to know that people can trust you with their emotional lives, and will come to you when they need. My confession was to reinforce that I will be available for her when she needs it.

I am not the emotional type. I have not been for a long time, but that does not keep me from expressing myself when I need to. Although this assignment was out of my comfort zone the moment arose when I could easily and genuinely complete it. As uncomfortable as it was for me I learned a lot about how easy or difficult it is for me to express myself. At times utilizing the Law of Love can be easily done other times it is not. I will try to use the Law of Love more, but it will not be for every aspect of my life. Just when the time is right.